I’ve wanted to do a blog on modesty for a while…it’s one topic that I know has been done many times, but I want to give you some thoughts on modesty that some of you may have never thought about before.
During blogs like this, I’m sure people have referred you to places like 1st Timothy 2:9, which is a great reference for saying that modesty is important. But, I think the real question is, how do we be modest? What constitutes as modest?
I’m sure we all know of the verse, “Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of Christ Jesus.” (Colossians 3:17). Okay, this is saying that in whatever you do or say, do it with Christ in mind. As Christian girls, I see often that we tend not to keep Christ in mind in a lot of the things we do, especially when it pertains to modesty.
I would like to bring up an issue that some Christian girls don’t even think about. I want to ask you something…would you wear your underwear out in public? I know it seems like a ludicrous question, and you’re probably thinking, “Of COURSE not! Why would you even ask that?”. But, many girls wear things very similar during the summer. Yes, I’m talking about swimsuits. Think about it for a second: a good 98% of all the swimwear that is sold in the stores (not all of them are though.) looks EXACTLY like undergarments and lingerie women usually wear. This includes the one piece swimwear, too (for some reason, women have a mindset that one pieces automatically count as modest).
I know you are probably thinking, “But, it’s different!” Okay, how are they different? Sure, you might say, “They’re made for swimming!”. That’s actually the only difference between most swimwear and undergarments/lingerie. Many girls get into this mindset that at the beach, guys (as well as other situations) aren’t going to look at them simply because they don’t want them to. Let me give you this analogy…when girls are at the mall, I would venture to say that almost 100% of the time, they can’t help but glance over at a jewelry store when they are walking by even if they don’t stop. It’s like we can’t help it-we love shiny stuff. Guys are kind of the same way in regard to girls. They are wired to notice girls. Physical reactions to immodestly dressed girls aren’t going to change just because of the situation; whether you’re at church, the beach, a formal event, performing, or out with friends. We must strive not to be a reason for encouraging guys to sin (Romans 14:13).
Refer to Colossians 3:17 again. It doesn’t matter what the situation is, we continue to uphold the same standards for ourselves. Modesty is no exception. We choose Him and His will no matter what the situation. If you wouldn’t wear things that are skin tight, low cut, shows off a lot of your back, your chest, and your thighs, in your daily life, why wouldn’t you do the same in ALL other situations? What does God want me to wear for this situation? That’s the question you need to ask. I’ve heard some girls say, “Well, my parents said that this was okay to wear, so it’s alright.” First off, your parents are human. They’re not God, and they make mistakes. That’s part of growing up as a Christian is realizing that those around you, no matter how much you respect them, will make mistakes. Compare what people say to God’s word, and if you’d feel comfortable wearing it around your Heavenly Father. -Chelsea